Meeting with Bishop Gregor re Same Sex Marriage consultation

Our bishops in the Scottish Episcopal Church are behaving rather differently towards the same-sex marriage consultation than the leaders of some churches. Instead of fulminating publicly about it, there is a different response which seems to me to be a bit more grown up.

This week, Bishop Gregor is offering an opportunity for members of the diocese (clergy and laity) to discuss issues raised with regard to the Scottish Government’s Consultation on Civil Partnership and Same-Sex Marriage.

Here’s his invitation:

The document can be found here:
http://www.scotland.gov.uk/Publications/2011/09/05153328/0 if you intend to come along to the afternoon it will be beneficial to have previously read the document.

The Provincial Faith and Order Board are preparing a response on behalf of the Scottish Episcopal Church.

Please note that this afternoon is not to produce a response from this diocese, although the Scottish Government would welcome individual and group responses to the document by Friday December 9th.

The meeting takes place at 2 pm in St Bartholomew’s Church in Gourock on Saturday 19 November 2011. (UPDATED to show correct date)

I think that’s a good thing. There doesn’t seem to be any great hysteria in our church about this. We know that some churches will not want to get involved and I’m sure that most people welcome the assurances that no-one is going to be forced to celebrate any religious wedding that they don’t want to. (No-one has a right to be married by any particular religious person or group at the moment, so this will simply remain the case). There will be those in our church who want to proceed to marry same-sex couples and there will be those who will not. The best way for us to stick together as a denomination is by respecting all such views just as we have done with regard to blessing couples who have had a civil partnership. No-one has been forced to bless such couples. Some people have blessed such couples. It is very similar indeed to the case of couples where at least one party has been married before. There are some clergy who will not conduct such ceremonies but there are plenty of us who do and there is a thoughtful pastoral process to enable such weddings to take place.

Thus there is already divergent practise over both blessings and marriage. The world has not ended by that diversity and our unity in Christ remains unbroken.

Who is welcome?

I want to pick up again on a comment that has been left by Helen on a previous post. She said:

Is it necessary to explain who you welcome? Should a church not welcome all? If you list welcoming gay people then you would need to list disabled, addicts, people of other ethnic backgrounds……..etc all who feel alienated towards christianity often. Is all not enough? St mary’s feels currently a place of welcome to all.

I think it is worth carrying on this discussion and those questions are worth answering.

My initial response is that lots of institutions are quite good at saying that they welcome everyone. However, that isn’t the same as actually making changes which will actually make everyone feel welcome.

There is a difference between gay people and the groups that Helen identifies – this is that some parts of the church actively, loudly and belligerently campaign against the human rights and well-being of gay people. Even though churches may not have a great heritage in some of these other areas, I don’t think that there is any similar campaign against disabled people, addicts or people of non-white ethnic groups. It is quite different and I often feel puzzled that straight people can’t see the difference.

That isn’t to say that there are not issues to think about for all those groups though. Just looking at the list that Helen thought of, I think it is worth making the following comments.

Regarding disability issues, I think that rather than say, “The Disabled Are Welcome at Our Services” it is probably actually more welcoming to make clear statements about accessibility and to continue to try to eliminate both physical and non-physical barriers to participation. Our current access situation is available here, though it does change from time to time. It used to be the case that disability was an impediment to ordination. It isn’t that long ago, for example that an attempt was made to bar someone I knew who had a history of epilepsy from priesthood in our church. Things have changed considerably in these areas though now, thank God.

With regards to addicts, I think that the situation is mixed. Churches are not always terrible places for people with addictions. Some indeed make space available for 12- step groups like Alcoholics Anonymous etc. However, some care does need to be taken with how one speaks of such groups – as they are anonymous, they often don’t want it to be advertised that they are meeting, preferring to go under names like, “The Thursday Group” or something like that. I don’t know whether people who live with addictions are more or less alienated from church life than from other institutions in society, but I’d be interested to know whether there has been any research on this.

With regards to people of different ethnic backgrounds, there are certainly things to do. I often speak of us being an internationally gathered congregation and have made particular efforts to make sure that different ethnicities are visually pictured on the cathedral website. So, although the student group pic has lots of white hands on it, this marriage one has African hands and the children’s ministry page has Asian hands all covered with sticky paint. Again, I expect that these ways of representing the common life of a congregation are as important as any statements about who may or may not be welcome.

Incidentally, coming to St Mary’s has disabused me of any prejudice that a congregation which is explicit about its welcome to gay folk might find it difficult to welcome African folk and particularly Anglicans from Nigeria. We are one in the Spirit. We are one in the Lord.

There are other groups who might traditionally feel unwelcome in church. Two come to mind particularly – those who are single and those who are divorced.

One of our statements about ourselves here at St Mary’s says this in response to some of these issues:

We are young, we are old. We are straight, we are gay. Some are single, some are married, some are partnered, some are single again. We are men and we are women. Some live alone, some live with others. We have different abilities. We have different understandings of the truth. We have all kinds of different reasons for choosing to make this our spiritual home.

I enjoy leading a church which is happy to make such statements about itself out loud and post them explicitly for all to see.

Social Media – for Good and for Ill

There’s quite a lot of comment going on at the moment over the effect of social media on the riots in London. We’ve not caught up in our heads with how to build societies when individuals have instant cheap mobile fast communications. Such technology can be used for good or for ill.

We cheered on the twitter organised revolution in Cairo and condemn with equal force the twitter organised riots in London. In time, let us hope for the space and peace to reflect on that and the differences in circumstances between the two situations. One thing is for sure, throttling and censoring the internet in educational establishments is unlikely to teach people how to live in a globally connected world.

Social media like anything powerful has potential for great good and great harm. When I am old and being pushed around in my bath-chair by the kindly nuns, stroking my silky-white beard, I shall look back at my life and see that much of it was a quest for using the unfolding, developing, fascinating social media technology for good and for God.

A lot of that is woven into the ways in which St Mary’s Cathedral lives out its life and vocation in the world these days. As I type this, there’s a facebook event set up for Bishop Christopher’s visit on Sunday. It allows people to invite others to come to hear him in church. I set it up yesterday and invited some people. Today I see that some people have said they are coming. Each of them will have alerted their followers on facebook to the face that something is going on as it will appear on their facebook wall. Some have deliberately posted it to their facebook pages so that their friends can see it even if they can’t come. And some have explicitly invited others. And the resultant guest list that is being built up consists of people I don’t know and have never met before. I see some people who have been invited by members of the congregation who are significant decision makers in Scotland. Others have been invited just because someone knows that there’s something going on that makes them think an invitation is worth passing on. It is a disperate and diverse set of people who have been invited already and I expect it to grow by the end of the week.

Then there’s other people’s blog posts about the event like Jaye’s new post today. She’s used social media (ie her blog) to share the news of what’s happening on Sunday with friends and work contacts alike.

It’ll be tweeted too, of course and there’s no knowing who’ll see it on there.

Then, I guess there might well be pictures shared on the St Mary’s Flickr group after the event – again people from the congregation sharing the good news with those around them. Who knows who? Who knows where?

All of this is mission, of course. Easy mission. So easy you barely realise that it is mission. It is about buzz, conversation, networks, profile building, worthwhile events and good news. It isn’t about computers or technology, just the regular chit-chatter of the kingdom being ushered in.

In all my years in ministry, I’ve known many an attempt to get people to invite their friends to church. Very, very few of them have had any impact, particuarly in churches which have a mainstream ethos. However, I find now that if there’s something worth sharing then people don’t need much encouragement. Indeed, they barely think about it. They just use the online tools that are part of daily life to share with others what they’ve found to be good.

(It works the other way too, mind. No-one wants a bad report from a mystery-worshipper online forever!)

People sometimes ask me how the church is to reach people who are not connected to this kind of technology in the future. My response is always the same. Increasingly in the future the church may need to set aside special resources to see whether it can reach people who either choose not to be connected this way or are prevented from doing so by something. Ignorance, fear and poverty are all well kent factors in people’s ability to engage. Churches have always had people in them who have wanted to tackle things like ignorance, fear and poverty and I presume people may emerge who have a passion for reaching the unconnected.

My prediction is that if the church wants to reach the unconnected underclass, specialist ministries are going to have to emerge which will try to reach them.

I guess that the rest of us are probably going to end up paying for such work too. Well, we will if we value it and believe those people to be worth reaching.

And that may be an assumption too far.

How to be single at Christmas

I find myself wanting to write something about being single at Christmas. After all, I’ve got some experience to draw on. There was a time when I used to find being on my own at Christmas a tricky thing to think about, but these days its one of the times of the year when I genuinely think I can be thankful for my single status and would prefer to sit down to a nice Christmas dinner on my own than to be a guest any number of other people’s tables.

Here’s a bit of what I’ve been learning.

If you like being with others on Christmas Day and others invite you to join in then go for it. However, decide some time before the big day what you want to do and stick to it. If you don’t want to be with others then make your mind up to resist all invitations. Don’t be frightened of saying to people that you like your Christmas and you wouldn’t want to miss out on it. They will look at you in awe and wonder. They may tell you that you are brave. Smile in a knowing kind of way and murmur, “No, I’m vulnerable too sometimes” and this will confirm them in their view that you are more valiant than Braveheart or the Bruce.

Being on your own at Christmas is one of those things that can seem daunting. However, if you make it through and enjoy it, think how pleased you’ll be. Remember the first time you went to see a film on your own, or sat down in a restaurant on your own and got a kick out of it? (Not achieved this yet? – stay tuned and I may write about it in the new year).

If you don’t want to be on your own, but find that you will be, do some planning before the day. You might like to volunteer to help other people out. You might opt to work if your place of employment offers work on Christmas Day. Otherwise, make some choices and decide to do something that reflects what you would most like to do if given the gift of a bit of time to yourself.

I work a lot over Christmas doing what I love – celebrating in sign and symbol and razzmatazz the good news that God is come into the world. If you’ve never gone to church much at Christmas, don’t be shy. There isn’t a congregation the length or breadth of the country worth its salt that wouldn’t welcome you in to whatever they do. Cathedrals offer lots of special things at this time of the year and are very used to people coming on their own. One of the reasons that Cathedral congregations are perceived to be doing relatively well at the moment is that single people are welcome through the year. Its a place where it ain’t odd to come on your own and you can choose whether to scoot out of the door the moment the organ plays at the end or hang around and chat afterwards. Safe topics of conversation are – the weather, the music and how glamorous the Provost looked in that cope. If you really want to blend in, seek out some of the servers and ask them to show you some thurible tricks in a quiet corner.

When it comes to spending Christmas Day on my own, I tend to make sure that I’ve got good food in. I also am apt to buy a couple of treats in case I want entertainment – a DVD of an obscure film that no-one else would want to see, a salacious book (other than the Bible) and a pot of Waitrose custard are all it takes to make me sure that I’ll be OK these days. Nice magazines and mud-based face-packs for a sneaky spa afternoon are optional but highly desirable.

Be assured that you don’t have to play by anyone else’s expectations. If you want pea and ham risotto rather than roast a whole turkey for yourself, who is to stop you? And risotto is such comfort food at this time of the year. But stir it slow now,  stir it slow.

Decorate as much or as little as you like. I tend to like a minimalist Chirstmas with trees firmly in place and decorated at church but not at home. However I knew someone once who did out his whole house in pink feather boas and twinkling lights just to celebrate the birth of the Bethlehem babe.

In all your planning, remember the golden rule of coping at Christmas on your own: Its your choice.

Make it.

Wave Goodbye

Oh, I do admire Google’s ability to fail.

They started something a while ago called Google Wave which they launched as the answer to life the universe and everything. It was going to be collaborative workspace, social communication, the new e-mail that everyone was going to flock to and generally more fun than feather boas.

It hasn’t worked and they’ve stopped development of it this week. Its a lesson in glorious failure. I admire the fact that they had a go and failed so magnificently. No doubt they have learned a lot and got lots of things to build on in the future.

I suspect it failed because the benefit was not worth the sign-up. It was proprietary software (you could only use it from within the Reign of Google) and that’s always tricky. Facebook seems to have managed to make a success of a proprietary model and there are lesser successes like Skype. In some ways its odd that Google hit the mark as the are big enough and butch enough to have a lot of power in the online world.

Google also has a model which is committed to glorious failure. They let their software-bods have significant time to work on dream projects that are not governed by managers. The theory is that the rare successes make it worth living with the failures that are inevitable from some projects along the way.

I’m interested in that for I work in a world which is often a success culture and people fear failure so much that they often won’t innovate.

I was asked this week where I would set up a new Episcopal church in Glasgow if I had a magic wand. I knew my answer immediately. I think there are two obvious targets in this city where a church might be established within five years or so. I’ve been thinking about that for a long time too. Mulling it over and brooding on possibility.

We’ve lost the knack of starting new congregations. A hundred years ago we did it constantly. The failure rate was huge, when you look back at the stories. However, if we could build a little bit of Google innovation into our heads we would realise that failure is inevitable and part of the growth cycle.

Winning the War

Seems like we’ve just lost a battle, but we’re winning the war.

So sad to see the Archbishop of York standing up in the House of Lords to fight for the church’s right to discriminate against those who work for it. Extraordinary to see the Bishop of Winchester say that he “should be very surprised indeed if the noble Lord [Ali] had any evidence of any clergy being put at any kind of risk at all simply on the grounds of their orientation, in the sense that the churches use the word, as opposed to their conduct in matters sexual…” (Hansard 25 Jan 2010 : Column 1198).

Its hard to understand that, isn’t it? The obvious public example is Jeffrey John, and that was pointed out to him, but you don’t have to go far in the church to find gay people who believe that they are discriminated against on the ground of their sexual orientation.

What was the Bishop of Winchester up to in making that claim? Did he believe what he was saying at the time? Because we are people of goodwill and generosity, we have to believe that he did. So what was in his head?

Twitter and the Church

I remember a couple of year’s ago taking out my laptop at General Synod and starting to blog. “You’re doing what?” shrieked the incredulous crowd. Well, actually, the crowd in synod was not terribly interested though the crowd beyond the synod hall was fascinated. Actually it was Mother Ruth who shrieked in derision, though not for long.

Last year, blogging was much more mainstream at synod. We have internet access in the hall now and you don’t need to dash out to have coffee in a wifi enabled coffee show to post updates as I did the first year I did it.

This year it was the turn of twitter to fascinate the episcopalian technorati. A number of us were doing the one line updates directly from the synod floor. If you don’t know what twitter is, check out this article which will tell you more.

One of the things that the I and C Board had arranged was for Mother Dunblane to come and give a lunchtime seminar on twittering for beginners. It certainly had the desired effect, with a number of people, including the Bishop of Edinburgh having a go.

We had feedback via twitter during the synod from, amongst others, clergy who could not be at synod, someone in the Alban Institute in the states, someone in Kentucky (one of Glasgow and Galloway’s companion dioceses) and Dave Walker the Cartoon Blogger (who put it on the Church Times blog).

Meanwhile, out in a world made darker by repression and violence, twitter is allowing Iranians to tell the truth about what they are seeing on the streets.

Twitter is just fast and furious one-line blogging. And as Bishop Pierre has observed, it gives us revolutionary power.

It is a revolution inside the church, as well as outside, and you can find me revolting, twittering here.

Any ideas what we should use it for next?

Taking Children to Church

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I’m on holiday at the moment, and will be until Friday. This last weekend, I was in Englandshire staying close to one of the places I lived when I was in secondary school.

I had a whole new experience of church. I got to do something I’ve never done before – I got to take children to church. How different it makes the experience. Turning up at a strange church with twin nephews (and my father) was an absolute delight.

There is so much to do in church!

Including the following:

  • Looking up the hymns to check if you have sung them in school.
  • Counting the number of times the priest mentions Jesus in the sermon. (A variation is to bow each time he does so).
  • Bowing when the cross or the priest goes past.
  • Making the sign of the cross in all the right places.
  • Learning about the secret prayers that the priest is praying.
  • Standing on the pews when everyone else is standing up so you can see.
  • Counting the crosses in church. (We got to 31 but I think we missed quite a few).
  • Kneeling on the kneelers, which is trickier than it sounds.
  • Praying the communion prayers along with the priest. (We did it by whispering along!)
  • Listening to the choir and watching the organist.
  • Sharing the peace. (Very enjoyable)
  • Chatting to some of the older ladies who were pleased to see us.

I experienced the mass in a whole new way that was altogether lovely. Especially walking up to communion hand-in-hand with an eight year old whilst we both sang:

I will hold the Christ-light for you,
in the night-time of your fear.
I will hold my hand out to you,
speak the peace you long to hear.

Book Club Suggestions

I’ve been meaning to make some suggestions for a while:

My Name Is Asher Lev by Chaim Potok. Orthodox Jewish boy steps outside his own world.
Wise Blood by Flannery O’Connor. A comic novel until we realise it is about us, not about “them”.
Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit by Jeanette Winterson. Still extraordinary after all these years.
Angels and Men by Catherine Fox. Set in a dreamy theological college – well kent territory to me.
Easter by Michael Arditti. Slightly flawed and far too long, but still easily makes the grade.
Magnus by George Mackay Brown. All about saints, maybe.
Chocolat by Joanne Harris. The perfect book for Lent.
The Magus by John Fowles. The godgame writ large.
Quarantine by Jim Crace. Another Lent book to take us to the desert.
The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver. To help us think about who is to blame for African biblicism.

    What would you suggest?

    Book Review – Changing Rural Life

    Changing Rural Life: A Christian Response to Life and Work in the CountrysideThis new book addresses a number of different themes facing rural life, which we are assured is changing in particular and distinctive ways. Drawing together essays by many contributors, the editors attempt to stimulate reflection on the rural economy, the environment and community issues.

    Of particular interest is a chapter by the Most Rev Bruce Cameron, the Primus of the Scottish Episcopal Church who writes about the particular experience of isolated communities. This leads into a description of local collaborative ministry as a process by which ‘…“being church” is transformed from a community gathered round its priest to being “ministering” communities exploring and putting into practise the ministry of the baptized.’

    If only we could untangle the idea of every member ministry from our need to review the patterns and structures of ordained ministry. Perhaps then we could all agree what local collaborative ministry is and subsequently agree on whether or not we think it is a good thing. Only after such a period of reflection will the church be able to ask the questions about deployment of resources which seem so often to be behind the LCM projects. However, this chapter does provide a helpful insight into Bruce Cameron’s Local Collaborative Ministry. Whether this is the same as everyone else’s Local Collaborative Ministry remains to be seen.

    Also in the book are contributions from John Saxbee on the urban use of the countryside, John Olive on biodiversity, James Jones on eating well and Richard Clarke on globalisation and local autonomy. Rowan Williams provides a thoughtful afterword bringing the collection to a close.

    Changing Rural Life: A Christian Response to Life and Work in the Countryside